Conflict Coaching and Management For Today's Youth

Our children are our future. Stop and think of children over the past decades and how their roles have changed and evolved over the years. How was a child different in the 60s or 70s from a child in the 80s or 90s? Here we are today, almost 10 years into the new millennium, an era of incredible technological advancements, strong competition for achievement and obtaining material, changes in gender roles and, most importantly, changes in family dynamics. Life is constantly changing and this is expected. We are a constantly growing and constantly changing society. But with such dramatic changes in social norms and behavior over the past 30 years, can we expect to raise and teach our children as they taught us when we were little, which was predominantly in authoritarian homes? We will analyze three individual scenarios taken from a recent study of family dynamics. The three cases are families of the new millennium raised in the United States.

Three studies of family dynamic cases

Sheila is an 18-year-old teenager beginning her first college year. She has two younger brothers and lives in a middle-class home with her two parents. Sheila's father is an insurance adjuster and her mother works as a secretary. Sheila grew up and was predominantly a direct student with a limited social group of friends. From a family perspective, it seems to be a children's product from the typical middle-class family. Sheila is also a drug addict.

Mark is a 20 year old and a high school student in college. He has a younger brother and is the product of a ruined home. His mother divorced his father when he was three years old. She was the only primary provider for her family and went to school at night. Mark was an average high school student, was active in sports and had a large number of friends. He is active in local Christian youth programs and specializes in basic education.

Maria, 16, and Luis, 17, are brothers and live in the Bronx. His mother receives social assistance and his father left them when they were young children. They attend the local high school, which is patrolled for safety and covered with iron bars. Drugs and violence are widespread. Maria is a good student and finds protection in solitude while Luis has been arrested numerous times for drugs and robbery and will hardly graduate from high school.

This is just one example of the differences in children, their family dynamics, and how they handle conflicts. Of course, each child has their own story, their own stories of their failures and their successes. Every child is a product of our family values ​​and our community. We have been in the millennium for almost ten years, and as we review the past few decades, we see how society has changed and how it has affected family unity. One aspect of life that has never changed is conflict. Conflict is and always will be part of life. However, the way we handle the conflict has changed, and awareness and education about the conflict is at the forefront of this modern age.

Definite conflict

In his article Conflict ... A New Perspective, Julie Fauimano, MBA, BSN, RN, Success coach the coach, defined the conflict as "two or more people who see things from different perspectives given their education, background, education and knowledge of the subject ., faith, time of day, mood, etc. ". In short, conflict is diversity of thought. From this brief definition, we see that conflict is more than a simple disagreement, but a combination of sources ranging from our education to our mood. Most people hear the term conflict and automatically associate it with a negative behavior. Many times when someone disagrees with our position, we take it as a personal attack and leap to the defense. However, the conflict can be positive if we allow ourselves to be open to new ideas and perspectives that are different from a problem.